People do what they want

 Section 7: Why would a negative
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why people negative attitude negative is formed? Not fall from the sky, nor is it impact of subtle and evolving. is the so-called and performance, this bitter, chosen course of time to develop habits of eight born to human hair:
1. the lack of goals. is the lack of purpose and direction in life, the lack of their own lives meaning and value of existence; do not know what they want to be, do not know why are they alive, do not know the fate in their own hands; do not know what will work, life would be like, how will the family, wealth, what will happen; no power, no passion, no confidence; do not see the opportunity, can not grasp their own attitude,Bailey UGG boots, life, work and study, as water duckweed, East drift west swing, I do not know where to go. no lazy people, only without goals. the world's poorest people, is no goal. Because even the Dream . This fear comes from past decisions, people tend to think of a negative attitude and had been subjected to the failure of sight, so worried back, hesitant.
3. fear of being rejected. We had too many lives have been refused, the parents refused to us, the teacher refused to We, friends reject us. We have heard too many these may occur immediately. fear of being ridiculed and combat, the fear of fear of losing self-confidence, prevent us ask for help and hinder our progress.
4. complain and blame. that once people experience problems and obstacles, always looking for excuse to justify its purpose is to shirk its responsibility to meet all his own can not achieve the mental equilibrium, to choose a natural avoidance behavior, that is, the responsibility attributed to others. their understanding and grasp of the self is not enough, he considered himself a victim, the poor person.
5. deny reality. In real life, not the face of unsatisfactory, bad things, so exaggerating the obstacles, to find excuses to escape, never to find their own reasons. This is a cowardly, cowardly and incompetent performance.
6. to do things by halves. Real life experience do not understand the process of overcoming difficulties is the truth, not the cause of strong faith and determination can not be upheld in the end. In times of difficulties, the first thought that may be brought about by injury setbacks. So do not think it achieved, it is impossible to achieve, can not succeed, give up their original work quickly. do things halfway, mainly due to At the same time, the total failure to see the negative side of things, which seemed timid, weak, worried, hesitant, looking for an excuse to (pass the buck). With the developments, increasing the degree of fear. afraid to take responsibility, so easily to mind than to bear the limit, so shirk. The most common way to shirk its responsibility is to complain and blame, to enter the retreat, absolve itself seems to always treat people badly, others not, deny the reality of extreme cases is to expand the obstacles to the sympathy with the others to cover up the emptiness of self; Once you find an excuse, they take the initiative to back down and eventually give up halfway. halfway once common, to become habits, certainly a vicious cycle, increasing as tendency. We should actively be difficult, it is easy to be negative; very difficult to be optimistic, it is easy to be pessimistic. pessimism like the plague, transmitted quickly go through. pessimistic about the previous several habits can be called a negative ; complications. The last man to keep a little bit of fantasy real, some of the success hinges on the absurd idea of the impossible. For example, imagine a big star with married friends, his father was a big shot you, suddenly one day, a person or a distant relative called the missing years of their hh often inherit a huge estate friends in this also to struggle. ambitious person to make up for the the three major causes of
1. destructive criticism. Freudian psychology school that a person's temperament already finalized at an early age, but also about life. the United States an authoritative advisory body, had been a child test, the results are amazing. They found that when one year old child, imagination, creativity, up to 96%, but decreased with age, 7 years old (school years) reversed; to 10 years old, the rich kids imagination, creativity was gone, leaving only the original 4%! children's imagination and creativity gone exactly how?! As a result, the agency decided on 10 000 children were tracked, the growth stage of their monitoring. Finally found that children growing up (age 0 to 10 years) in the process, more than twenty times the average to suffer destructive criticism timid, cowardly, indecision, worry and other negative mental excuse. destructive criticism of the first performance, that is, when criticism of the ad hominem, personal attacks directly. For example: know, you're a fool, fool, do no! you only eat bad, do-nothing! hopeless matter, can not be saved, I'll When you die, on when not the child, she was not mad at you like, You see people tt, how come so good hh hh treat our children how terrible, in this world, all the time in the event of We are to educate children is to let the children do not learn bad, let the children even more disappointing hh The. destructive criticism is itself a negative attitude of the performance of the critics and his own unhappy all the negative emotions, vent their children, and therefore, for destructive criticism, children are a double negative impact: they directly bear the destruction of one hand criticism of the injury, on the other hand doing the destructive criticism of the parents is equal to the model. children learn in the nurture of this set in the future and used against their own children. destructive criticism of the second performance, is to increase the child's guilt. know, but one thing is know is that I'm bad, do not live up to expectations, I want compensation, I want to repay. If often happens, the child to repay the self-blame and feelings of guilt, young mind to carry a heavy cross of repentance. carrying a hidden, is conditional love. It would also cause harm to the child. ; hh Since then, the children know, not as animals. destructive criticism of direct destruction of people's self-esteem, increase the psychological burden, twisted mind, the child's self-confidence will thus disappear,bailey UGG boots, he (she) began to self-hatred, self-pity, self-violence, abandon myself, afraid to do anything gradually self-handicapping, loss of courage, cowardly. destructive criticism of the ideological burden of harm.